Not Meant to Be

That gleaming look in their eyes

Stolen glances at every moment presented

Feeling lost at every corner

But strangely comforted


Their mere presence making you full of comfort

Not able to understand this phenomenon

Holding on to every second

For fear it will be taken away without notice


Thinking of them

Brings a big smile to your face

One you have never experienced before

One you cannot place


Your eyes following them as they parade around

You can’t help to be drawn by their energy

Letting heart slowly release its lock

They make you feel safe


Hoping that this feeling will not go away

Cherishing every second

Until you open your eyes

Realizing it was just another fantasy


©Writing the Rose

Sarah Do

15 February 2019

Relationships, Uncategorized

Valentine’s Day is just another day

A day of love. Yet shouldn’t everyday be a day of love?  Do we really need a holiday to prove we care for another person? Is that how shallow our society has truly become?

Valentine’s Day the one time of the year people in relationships love because they think their partner will shower them with gifts. The holiday is catered to those in relationships. It is also the day that corporate American reminds single people how much they fail for not being in a relationship. However, if you really take a look at what this holiday has become, it is really just a sham. I mean why on one day of the year should you expect your partner to be going above and beyond to show you how they feel. This should be happening on a regular occurrence, and Valentine’s Day should just be another day. It is a day of love but why is it only focused on the love of couples?  Why can’t this just be a day of love for all? Who cares if you are single, maybe you enjoy not having to deal with the struggles of a relationship or maybe you just don’t have time.

Being single is not a bad thing, nor is being in a relationship. However, I have seen way too many people use Valentines Day as a way to go overboard to prove they really care for their partner. Yet when February 15th rolls around, the fights start again, and they question why they are still together. I always believed the ones that got the most on this day, were always overcompensating for something wrong in the relationship, or something they have done. I can’t count the amount of times, a girl comes crying a week after getting a huge display, having just found out her boyfriend has been cheating for months. Corporate greed has made us believe the more we spend, the more our partner will love us. This is farther from the truth. Stop fretting if your significant other doesn’t go all out or forgets. The holiday is overrated anyway.

All over social media you see people either bragging or complaining about how their life sucks. Singles feel left out, and restaurants make deals for single people. I am not sure my take on this because I don’t want pity for being single. I mean a discount is nice, but do I really want to go to restaurant and say I am single, so give me a discount today. Forget that. Do I want to go to a bar and wait for another lonely guy to take me home to fill our void together? No! You don’t have to be with someone to feel complete. You should be enough for yourself. Wait until you find the person that will treat every day like Valentine’s and not wait for the calendar to tell him or her to celebrate and appreciate you.

So often we are made to feel incomplete if we are not in a relationship and this is no more present than on Valentine’s Day. However, it will also make you question your own relationship. I always advise staying away from social media on this day. Don’t compare your relationship and your gifts or activities to others. Everyone is different. Some put more importance on the time spent together than on the money drained from their account. I would much rather have a guy spend an uninterrupted evening with me with no distractions, meaning turning our phones off and having a real conversation, than being showered with superficial gifts. Though we have become a superficial society, so I can understand why some feel compelled to go all out. I won’t hop on that train though. A home cooked dinner, candles, wine and some good music will always beat a fancy 5-star restaurant. Plus, who really wants to fight to get reservations? Too much stress.

Does one day really make a difference? Does buying a gift make your relationship last longer? Does this day make up for the rest of the year? No, is the answer. If you say yes, you are just deluding yourself because one day does not make up for every other day. Can you make it a day of a fresh start, of course! Just don’t use Valentine’s Day as a way to try and make up for all the bad things that have occurred. A holiday cannot replace those memories or actions taken. Sure, you can go spend a lot of money and shower someone with a falsehood of security, but if it is only done on this day, that façade will disappear quickly. Use today as just another day to appreciate all of those around that you love. If you are single, get together will your other single friends and celebrate your freedom to go out and do whatever you like on this day catered to lovers. If you are in a relationship, celebrate in the way that works for you and your partner. Forget the hallmark cards and lifetime movies. Only you know what your partner likes, and if you don’t, well that is a whole other subject. What I am trying to say is don’t put pressure on yourself to match what has been ingrained in our brains since elementary school. Enjoy your day and at the end of the day, it really is just another day in the scheme of life. Don’t waste your time worrying about 24 hours and just do what works for you.

(c)Writing the Rose

Sarah Do

14 February 2019


Lonely Nights

Lonely nights

Busy days

Drowning in work

To ignore what is missing


Cold winter nights

Spent cuddling alone

No one to call your own

The all too familiar feeling


Spending the days

Living in your own world

Afraid to face reality

Afraid to fall into desperation


Nights spent in bars

Absorbing the atmosphere around

Only to leave and return

To the emptiness overflowing home


Random chats and endless battles

Internal dialogue taking over

The mind playing tricks

To make these days more bearable


So, stare at the walls tonight

Keep waiting for your one to appear

Be open to the warmth

That comes along with loving embrace



©Writing the Rose

Sarah Do

29 December 2018



Her mind whirls around

Questioning every move like its life or death

Unable to stop the worrying

Nagging her tiring mind


Her insecurities at every corner

There is no where she feels safe

Every doubt that creeps in

Makes her lose another touch of reality


She has no need to worry

Anxiety overpowering her consciousness

Her happiness slowly slipping

With every what if scenario introduced


It is like a nightmare

A bad scene from a Hollywood movie

She can’t look away

She can’t turn off the screen


Trying to fight back the fear

Telling herself everything is irrational

She feels the straight jacket creep back on

Losing her fight once again


Thinking she was strong enough

To survive without constant reassurance

The memories of the past

Winning over her once again

© Writing the Rose

Sarah Do

25 January 2019



Beauty runs deep

Past what the eyes can see

The soul of a person

Holds the true beauty


The look in their eyes

Are mere previews of the movie

Most won’t stay for the feature film

Shallowness overflows in most


Looking past the external

The only way to truly discover

The beauty of another

An experience most will miss


In a world where looks outweigh personality

Ugliness fills the world with hate

Those overlooked

Hold the key to beauty unseen


Look into the eyes

Find the soul of beauty underneath

Only then can one say

They have seen the beauty life has to offer


©Writing the Rose

Sarah Do

29 December 2018



How much longer do I have to wait

Will my patience wear thin as days pass

How much longer will it take

To find the one to stand by my side


Does my baggage outweigh my worth

Have I really become unlovable

I see others in worse situations finding several

Yet I can’t find one


How long until I stop getting pushed aside

For those that look better on paper

Why do they always see my worth

After a string of failed dates


Why am I not an option

Should I really give up

Accept a fate of being single forever

While watching others living happily


While everything takes times

I feel like I am always waiting

Waiting for someone to love me for me

Maybe that is just a dream


©Writing the Rose

Sarah Do

29 December 2018


Missed Opportunities

Their eyes lock across the room

The back and forth glances begin

Each one making assumptions

Someone has to make a choice


Approaching cautiously, he walks forward

She holds her breath as his stride brings him closer

His heart pounds with social anxiety

Wondering what her response will be


Beads of sweat form on his forehead

Not sure he can go through with this

She watches him walk past her

Another strike out caused by irrational fear


Her smile fades as he walks out the door

Wondering if it was all in her head

His anxiety getting the best of him

The internal struggle never ending


Finding it hard to find the one

When we let our doubts overflow

So, we sit at a bar alone

Instead of approaching the person might be our destiny


© Writing the Rose

Sarah Do

29 December 2018